Blame Game
The Mind

Blame Game

  • Find Your Best Self
  • Maggie Edwards

If you grew up in an environment where blame was a common practice, whether you were at fault or not, neuroscience suggests that you may tend to follow the same pattern in your adult life. Initially, you might not be aware of this behaviour, but over time and with...

If you grew up in an environment where blame was a common practice, whether you were at fault or not, neuroscience suggests that you may tend to follow the same pattern in your adult life. Initially, you might not be aware of this behaviour, but over time and with experience, you can recognize your own patterns and break free from them. You don’t need to make the same mistake for the rest of your life, that’s not how you are built. Your mind is limitless and conditioning your mind to think certain way ( supportive way ) is a life skill. Learn the skill first. Stay consistent and watch yourself grow.

If you come from a culture of blame (like me) and wish to change for the better, here are steps you could take:

  • Acknowledge that you tend to blame others for unpleasant situations or unhappiness in your life, rather than external factors like your background, environment, boss, family, spouse, politics, economy, or country.
  • Reflect on your past, especially your relationships with your closest family members. How frequently were you exposed to the blame game during your childhood, and how did it affect you emotionally? Negative emotions associated with this may indicate a tendency to blame.
  • Decide to change your approach
  • Identify areas in your life where the blame game is prevalent, especially in areas where you are struggling.
  • Clearly outline how you want to think and act in such situations in the future. Be specific and prepare for challenges.

Implement these changes in real-life scenarios and continue practicing until it becomes a natural response.

  1. In life, nothing comes easy. Every achievement a person accomplishes demands time, dedication, perseverance, patience, and unwavering focus. By living your life with these values, you are on the journey towards personal happiness.
  2. In challenging situations, prioritise seeking clarity. Always strive to understand both perspectives before drawing conclusions.
  3. Embracing full responsibility for your life situations and decisions leads to personal liberation.